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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In your situation, you’re not necessarily obligated to support your mother, but you’re also not able to dictate how much your brother contributes.

I’m sorry you were treated the way you were. However, it’s also not your lazy brother’s fault how you were treated. It seems like you want to discuss this now with your brother so you can have a reason to demonize him. You hate what he represents, which is all the support your mother didn’t give you in your own times of need.

You know your brother is not going to see it the way you do. [/quote]

I am PP. I just went back and reread your post. He lived at home for 3 years while saving for a down payment and went to private school. I’m not sure he’s necessarily “lazy”. Sounds like he’s being smart with the support his parents are providing. Nothing he’s doing is unreasonable. How you deal with the feelings your mom has given you towards her is a separate ball of wax, but the brother isn’t the problem here. It’s your mom. [/quote]

I agree. Your brother is wise to profit from the support his mother is willing to give him. He's not stealing it. They're giving it to him, and he's smart to recognize the long-term financial implications. Did you ever ask your mother for help at any point?

You don't have to give your mother anything, OP. Neither does your brother, although it would be nice if he did. If he still lives in the same house, it would be great if he could supervise her care, with the help of paid caregivers.

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