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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If anything, I’d share all of your feelings about how you felt were treated unfairly with your mom just so you have closure. I’d not tie it to her eventual elder care but more that you need to have this conversation to finally let it go for your own healing.

Then, I’d just do what you feel comfortable with at the time any support is needed. Perhaps your brother will step up but perhaps he won’t. Just focus on what you can give ( emotionally and financially) at the time. So sorry you were treated so unfairly. [/quote]

NP. You can do this, of course, but please be prepared that you may not get the answer/response of contrition/compassion/regret that you seek. I've just seen this happen recently with my MIL/SIL. SIL felt she was not afforded the same encouragement/kindness that her brothers (including my husband) received. It's probably true. But she shared her feelings and MIL hasn't given her the type of closure she needs. In fact, they are now estranged.

Please deal with your issues with a therapist, and lean on your current family (husband, kids, friends) for emotional support to work through this. Then, as PP says, give what you are able to (emotionally and financially). If it's nothing, that's okay too. [/quote]

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