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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If these are your worst examples, you are not ready to divorce. You likely need a marriage counselor to help you talk through all this.

If my MIL asked me about dinner, when I just had a baby, I would be annoyed beyond belief. But I wouldn’t cut her off.

Families have different norms about hospital stuff. My husband was surprised when I said I didn’t want family in the waiting room while I gave birth. He acquiesced, but it was very surprising to him. I was shocked when his family all came and sat around the hospital for 8 hours while our kid has brain surgery. It was not helpful to me in the slightest, but it meant a lot to my husband. Neither of us was right or wrong.

[b]It sounds like your husband actually does what you want. But then he takes some jabs at you about it. [/b]That isn’t cool and that is what you need to work on.[/quote]

Op here. You are right. He will generally do what I ask re: his family, but then I will hear about it for years later.
It is also very much communicated to his family that this is what I want, not what WE have decided works for us. He is just the messenger.
He reminded me this week that I was a b to his family, and that it was almost a dealbreaker to him and he contemplated leaving me.
I'm not going to be paraded into the town square for a flogging every year for the rest of our lives.[/quote]

If this has been going on for years, you made a huge mistake having a baby with him. Calling you a curse word and threatening to leave you is unacceptable. You need to focus on these things, not the silliness of the brother not holding the baby. And yes, maybe this is irreparable, but you should start with marriage counseling.[/quote]

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