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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Other than his mom and brother, what else is a mistake?  Honestly that all sounds annoying, but not enough to divorce over.  Especially if you don't see them every day or even every week. [/quote]

It's not just about the annoying things. It is the mindset that his family can do no wrong. They always get the benefit of the doubt and I get none.
Boundaries- his words are that families with boundaries are not close families. That is a quote.
The way he treats his family vs mine. My family is consistent and predictably helpful. His is not. A good example of this. My mom has sent us a check every month since birth for our baby- to spend however we see fit. He nods, says nothing, Certainly does not call or text her thank you.
His mom sent one toy and a book. He told me I needed to call her or write a thank you note. Double standards.
Also, he was unemployed/underemployed for a long time. I sent him job posting after job posting. He rejected 99% of them. Said he would rather hold out for a dream job than settle.
By settle, you mean contribute to your family's bills. I lost a lot of respect for him after that. I busted my ass to be the sole provider for almost a year, with a new baby. 
Because he didnt want to settle for a job that was not interesting to him.
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I mean this kindly, but you come off as difficult.  At this point you've lost respect for him, and hate his family. It will not get better unless you relax, soften up and actively work on your marriage.  Which I don't believe you want to do. I get he's not your ideal husband, but you also are not being his ideal wife. If you've both stood your ground and aren't willing to compromise, then you know what you have to do.  To me these are small potatoes, but they obviously mean a lot to you and to your happiness. [/quote]

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