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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If these are your worst examples, you are not ready to divorce. You likely need a marriage counselor to help you talk through all this.

If my MIL asked me about dinner, when I just had a baby, I would be annoyed beyond belief. But I wouldn’t cut her off.

Families have different norms about hospital stuff. My husband was surprised when I said I didn’t want family in the waiting room while I gave birth. He acquiesced, but it was very surprising to him. I was shocked when his family all came and sat around the hospital for 8 hours while our kid has brain surgery. It was not helpful to me in the slightest, but it meant a lot to my husband. Neither of us was right or wrong.

[b]It sounds like your husband actually does what you want. But then he takes some jabs at you about it. [/b]That isn’t cool and that is what you need to work on.[/quote]

Op here. You are right. He will generally do what I ask re: his family, but then I will hear about it for years later.
It is also very much communicated to his family that this is what I want, [b]not what WE have decided works for us. He is just the messenger.[/b]
He reminded me this week that I was a b to his family, and that it was almost a dealbreaker to him and he contemplated leaving me.
I'm not going to be paraded into the town square for a flogging every year for the rest of our lives.[/quote]

Well, the bolded appears to be true, right?  After all, you wrote, "He will generally do what I ask re: his family." [/quote]

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