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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think your wife is stressed and is romanticizing staying home. I don’t think it’s fair she should pressure you to make enough to allow her to do that. I’m a woman, BTW. I think an equal partnership requires equal weight on decision-making, so unless you also want to ramp up and her to stay home, you need to make a plan together that works for you both. You may have done that, but your posts don’t sound that way at all.[/quote]

My wife after birth of first quit. I was making $69k a year. She cried and promised to cut every expense to bone. She never went back. We had three kids. We had a small starter home at time in a second tier neighborhood we bought with a big downpayment and a paid off Camry and Ford Taurus.

She promised I could work as many hours I want, travel business, do what I want to support my career. I had a five year plan to double my salary to make it work.

I went from 69k to 140k in five years. Barely made that goal. But next five years went from 140k to 280k then next five years 280k to 330k then it peaked.

Women underestimated working holds their husbands career back. I do wish my wife kept working. And I do think this is not a man thing. My sister her husband stayed home 10 years.

But I was guy in office early, staying late, traveling for work, meeting with regulators, external auditors, board. Available moments notice.

You also not need to be silly and “mission driven” work where they pay and do the job no one wants and jobs with pressure and long hours. That is what I did. Otherwise you can’t shine. My big promotion that set me up I was at work in a super super demanding high profile project I was gone 7 am to 8-9 pm for 52 weeks straight without a vacation day and had a 3 and 1 year old at home. That project set me up my big promotion which put chain of moving up on full throttle.

This guy should get the rock on his back. My wife has the kids I have my career my other dual income sister and husband has nothing in one sense she did not really raise her three kids her Mexican nanny and childcare did and neither could focus on career. In end they are now 65 and she is not close to kids and he had a horrible lame career of nothing. He even told me sad his lifelong resume does not have one single big job ot big raise just 44 years of crappy jobs.

Let this guy fly. He could easily be making 300k in 5-7 years [/quote]

You worked that many hrs nonstop without a vacation day and missed the year your kids were 1 and 3, all to make $300k? That's pretty sad.[/quote]

You really think I want yo run home to dirty diapers and a shit show. Showing up when dinner on microwave, just on time for a bedtime story is perfect timing. I actually was trying for a $500k job but I pivoted to a cushy corner office job for 10 years. I started that one a few months before third born, after that ten years back on road with 48 business trips in one year!!!! I am now WFH last 3 years. I peaked at $800,000. So I got from $69,000 at age of 38 to $800,000 at age of 55. All with a 2.6 college GPA from a crappy college.

My kids get stressed if I am home and my wife gets very stressed. When money flowing in everyone happy. People in particular miss 40-50 is when you need to be balls to wall but snowflakes back off in mid 30s. If anything goof off 21-35 and save your energy for go time.

Also people miss 55-65 is also go time. Those board slots and consulting gigs are hard as hell to get. Takes you 5-8 years to land something and once retired impossible to get. Look at Barabara Walters she retired 86. Our career at 45 has 30 years to go. Who knows maybe at 80 I will run for President. Maybe at 90 find cure for cancer. Maybe climb Mount Everest at 100. Always reinvent. [/quote]

So in essence, after 35, working for someone else under a cushy corporate umbrella is no longer an option![/quote]

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