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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is move important to you - not shelling out as much as you could to care for your mom, or a lasting, positive relationship with your only sibling? There’s your answer.[/quote]

I think what’s most important to me in this scenario is asserting boundaries.  In addition to providing vastly different levels of support between my brother and me, she also ignored signs of the sexual abuse I was experiencing (after my first grade teacher evidently called a meeting with her), provided resume support and networking opportunities for my brother (but not me), and even petty stuff like getting my brother nice Christmas presents while getting me crappy ones (typically clothing several sizes larger than I wear).  On top of everything, she was severely emotionally and physically abusive.

If this sounds like sour grapes, it is!  I don’t feel like I owe her anything, frankly, now or ever.  [b]I think it would be much harder for my brother to say the same[/b].[/quote]

So what? OP, please consider finding another therapist because if this is where you are after a lot of therapy with your current provider, you aren't making progress.

At this point though, I'm beginning to think you are a troll.  The details you keep adding are more dramatic each time ("step dad slapped me" "kicked out at 13" "sexual abuse ignored") and are starting to feel made up, especially since you're also claiming you want your kids to have a relationship with your mother.  All of it is irrational so either stop trolling or get off DCUM and get yourself to a new therapist who can help you set boundaries and stop blaming those who have done nothing wrong. [/quote]

I am not a troll.  I also don’t know what satisfactory progress would look like given what I’ve experienced.  Writing this post/engaging with this thread is making me rethink whether I want my mom in my life at all. [/quote]

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