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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That was me as an unmedicated ADHD kid. It is the teacher’s job to ensure a functional learning environment for the entire class. It is your job to help him reframe the arrangement into a positive and mitigate the harm to his self esteem. [b]You can’t expect the teacher to sacrifice other children’s learning for him[/b]. That’s not fair or reasonable to anyone.[/quote]

That's the whole point of FAPE. He just needs the diagnosis. [/quote]

An IEP can get the child goals , but does not allow the child to just disrupt others all day.[/quote]

Except it does. These kids are ruining school for everyone else - put them in the self contained room where they belong.[/quote]

A kid distracting himself and other kids by talking too much does not belong in a self contained classroom. They need to sit someplace where they are not distracting other kids. The Teacher and parents should be working together to figure out how to stop the talking and distractions. It is annoying but it is not dangerous and is pretty common for Teachers to have to deal with. Granted, it’s easier if the parents are working with the Teacher and it doesn’t sound like that is happening with this child. The OP makes it sound like she has heard from the Teacher regularly about the talking and it finally escalated enough that the boy was moved to sit by himself next to the Teachers desk. Moms response is not to fix the issue but to worry about her kids self esteem.

A kid throwing things, hitting, kicking, biting, or destroying the classroom belongs in a self contained classroom. 
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Op sounds like she has not disciplined the child. If she did, he would have stopped disrupting class and wouldn’t have to sit next to the teacher.

I have a well behaved kindergarten daughter. She has a kid at her table who gets and iPad and doesn’t listen to the teacher. Everyday I ask her how her day is and most of what she tells me is about all the bad things this boys at her table does. I am sure he has some sort of learning disability since he gets and iPad. She said he gets an iPad so he can be quiet. My daughter seems to still be learning.[/quote]

I agree that it sounds like the OP has not done much to work with the Teacher to help her child learn to control his chatter. The OPs comments make it sound like the Teacher has been trying to address this all year but does not highlight anything that the OP has done to work with the Teacher. The fact that the OPs post goes to the idea that moving the child's desk is bad for his self esteem and not to how she is working on improving the behavior points to a parent who doesn't understand the larger issue.  If that is the case then the OP is not helping her child learn appropriate behavior at school or the Teacher help her kid to learn or the other kids in the class to learn.

That said, if there is something at play, like ADHD, then it is not as easy as the parent disciplining the child at home. The parent needs to be working with the Teacher to develop a plan that will help the child learn understanding that it can be harder because of the ADHD. There are ways to address the issues but it does take time and patience. The Teacher would be working for ways to help the child while allowing other kids to learn.

It sounds like the kid at your daughter's table is someone whose issues they are trying to address. I would contact the Teacher and ask for your child to be moved if the child or children are disrupting her ability to learn. Provide examples of what your daughter is telling you she is hearing and seeing. Teachers need that type of input from parents to make the case for testing and evaluation for kids, especially if the parents are not responding to the Teachers outreach, like the OP from this topic seems to be doing. There are parents who don't see the issues that the Teacher is bringing to them as the parents concern because what is happening at school is supposed to be the Teachers issue. There are parents who don't see the issues at school as important because they don't want to admit that their child might have a learning issue or ADHD or something else going on, it interrupts their idea of a "normal" child. Those parents tend not to work with the Teaching staff and makes it harder to get kids evaluated so you end up with Teachers having to take specific steps, document how those steps don't work for a period of weeks, then take more steps, document those steps not working, and eventually end up with an evaluation after the kid has been disrupting other kids learning. Parents requesting kids be moved because another kid is talking too much or is bullying or is disrupting learning in some way help Teachers with their documentation. [/quote]

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