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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes. I wish my parents had interfered. Historically, parents had a say . . . And for good reason. [/quote]\

Honesty from someone who's BTDT.
Marriage shouldn't be a gamble but these days it feels like it.  
I think the issue is what the parents are concerned about.  Some older folks can see immaturity, fecklessness, lack of ambition that the young lover is blinded to. But it's very hard to point this out to that young lover.
There was a time when marriage was sought, the suitor was griled on how he was going to support the potential family in the manner the bride was accustomed to. One can peruse this site to see the seething disappointment of women who have to do it all while the dilettante husband continues exploring his self-involvement.  The reverse is also true, there are numbers of women on here who have children but priotize their career and expect the husband to drop all his goals.  
Well, some parents have opinions that really matter (I am thinking of a 50 year career matrimonial attorney who gave is daughter amazing marriage advice) and some are just shallow who judge on a person's exterior veneer.  I guess the answer depends on the reason for interference. [/quote]

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