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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Similar dynamic in my family except there are just two siblings and no step siblings. Since I turned 18 and went off to college, I was on my own except for tuition payments. My parents had a complete double standard for my younger sibling. I remember when they bought a tv for her dorm room! I was buying my own books for classes. My sibling is just a few years younger, not a huge gap or anything, it's just a double standard. Sibling is manipulative and passive aggressive so she's been happy to take advantage of my parents.

When the parents set up this type of unequal dynamic it negatively impacts family relationships. And their actions have consequences. So if it makes you upset to be part of this, then see them less. It's on them for creating this dynamic, not you. [/quote]

Well said. I have a full sibling who doesn't play well with others. She has a fancy and highly impressive and high paying job my parents would brag about. Due to her own choices she is divorced (treating him horribly and dumped him) with a child and she made a series of poor investments, but she still has plenty of money. I am married so I am told she is getting all these handouts as they decrease their estate because she is single and made investment mistakes. I saved and work to have a strong marriage which means I do not get the same. One of our kids has series medical needs which cost a fortune and we had a huge ordeal getting as much as we could for insurance to pay (one of the doctors at the hospital didn't take out insurance-pre-no surprises act). Apparently medical expenses don't qualify as "need" to them, but investing in BS things because you don't do your research does.

For me it just reinforced she has and will always be the favorite. I heard them brag about her my whole life and I was the other one. Any mistake she makes she gets saved. Any challenge she has they are fawning all over her and I am on my own.I accept it, but it makes me have very strong boundaries. It is always best to be fair. They can do whatever they want with their money, but I also have the right to have major boundaries.[/quote]

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