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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.[/quote]

OP here. That's exactly what bothers me. I stopped using the card in person early on when a cashier commented on it being metal, but my debit card had just been stolen and I didn't have a choice. I'm super thrifty and live way under my means, and it hurt that they made assumptions about me.[/quote]

Ok, this just took it to another level. OP. Why would a comment that it’s “metal” — which most credit cards are not — make you stop using it ?  At the worst, someone you encountered once in your life made a random comment that you spiraled into what you imagined— and assumed— someone you’ll likely never see again thinks about you. A random cashier doesn’t know — or care — that you’re “ super thrifty”, and was likely not making any assumptions about how you live or intending to hurt you.  OP, is this a pattern for you beyond issues related to your credit card?  [/quote]

OP here. Yeah - I don't like drawing attention to myself, so anytime some makes a comment about something they've noticed about me, it's uncomfortable. [/quote]

Ok. Then I’d like to gently and respectfully suggest that knowing this about yourself, you ask yourself how you want people — particularly friends who may not realize this — to treat you.  Do you really want people to not notice you? Or to never comment on things that they’ve noticed?  
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I'm sensitive to criticism, so yes, I guess those are the comments I get, I'd rather not be noticed.[/quote]

Ok. That sounds difficult for you.  Most people would probably not view the comment you posted as personal criticism, and would shrug it off if they noticed it at all.  So, what would you like from your friends?  To only talk about themselves or less personal matters — and not notice you at all?  
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