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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you currently have a nanny and still don't have enough bandwidth to handle kids and logistics of family life, do not have a 3rd child. Will you occasionally regret it? Probably, but let's be real, OP. You cannot handle having a 3rd. [/quote]

This was exactly my thought- having a nanny rather than daycare should (in theory at least) make the mental load/logistics stuff a LOT easier. It doesn't mean that having kids is ever easy, but if things still feel incredibly overwhelming with a nanny in the home, I would not continue on and have a third, at least for now.

I had our third child this summer and recently went back to work. My oldest is in kindergarten and my two younger kids are at daycare. By far, the toughest part has been managing packing the daycare bags/lunches/all the things for the next day and being very tired while doing it. If I had a nanny in my home, I wouldn't have to do most of the prep, the commute, daycare sick days, etc. Just a suggestion- are there tasks that the nanny could complete that could lessen your load? As long as it is discussed, many nannies are at least willing to take care of tasks related to the kids- laundry, tidying toys at the end of the day, washing bottles, and so on. Even if you don't have a third, I would think that through and sort it out. Also, what is your husband's role in all of this? Are there things he could be taking on as well, or is he already sharing the load with you?[/quote]

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