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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So what DO you say? Especially if you’re not close enough to say “I’m here if you need anything” or anything like that? [/quote]

"Let me know if I can help with anything" is a universal thing to say in any situation. People should say that if they mean it. Or, say, "Good to know. Hope everything goes smoothly" or something like that. Not "I'm sorry" to a woman when most likely, she is the one who initiated it after years of trying to figure out what to do...the last thing she wants to hear is "I'm sorry" because it can cause people to yet again second guess a decision that might have been hard to make because of social judgment. The term "I'm sorry" just reinforces the judgment. 70% of divorces are initiated by women. They don't want to hear "I'm sorry." The don't want a sentiment of pity when they are being brave.[/quote]

Ok well im not going to say “let me know if I can help with anything” because I usually don’t mean it and I think it sounds condescending if they haven’t asked for help or looked like they needed help. And I’m not going to say “oh, ok” because that’s dismissive and awkward. Im going to say “oh, im sorry to hear that, I didn’t know” and then initiate  a quick change of subject unless the person opens up to talk more. That’s it. Sorry (haha)[/quote]

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