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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's rude to speak in another language in front of someone who can't speak it. I think both airpods or a book are fine. Obviously look around a bit and smile, to let people know you're open to a conversation, but the idea that you must sit quietly, smiling vacantly while all around you people chatter to each other in another language is a ridiculous standard to be held to. [/quote]

OP says “most of them don’t speak English very well” so by your logic OP is rude by speaking English in front of this group. [/quote]

But she is the minority here, and they are the majority. It's incumbent upon the majority to be considerate of the minority, not the other way round. [/quote]

No, it isn’t. I’d love to see you hobble through a conversation with your high school Spanish to accommodate the minority participant in your holiday event. Absolutely an absurd position. [/quote]

If I had invited someone who didn't speak English to my holiday party, I would absolutely attempt to use my language skills to include them. It might not be pretty, but the onus is on me to make them feel welcome. If you wouldn't, you're a shockingly rude host. Why even invite them otherwise? [/quote]

That's fine, but you wouln't talk to your family members in English, even to catch up with your grown kids that you don't see often, in case the guest doesn't understand? Would the guest even want that?
My in-laws sometimes lapse into their other language and it doesn't bother me at all. The difference is most do speak English so I'm included in much of their conversation. But if they want to talk about what the people who were neighbors in the old neighborhood and their kids are doing now, or whatever, it's ok with me that I'm not included. If the grandmother who barely speaks English wants to talk to her grandchild, my husband, in the language that she knows, that is fine with me. Sometimes my husband will translate for me, but that's a burden, when all she wants to do really is reminisce about when he was the smartest, cutest, most polite, best (to her, anyway) baby and the funny little cute things he did. [/quote]

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