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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What sort of proof did you find that gave you all of that information? If your marriage is a good as you say, why were you snooping? My biggest concern would be your kids finding out and growing up thinking that it is acceptable behavior. [/quote]

He fell asleep with his open laptop on his lap. I moved it so it wouldn’t fall off the bed in the night, which I’ve done plenty of times before. This time, What was on the screen was extremely shocking and could only be one thing. I then did snoop and found lots lots more. Texts, meet ups, dating profiles, many things correlating with his business travel. Connecting various other dots, and knowing his patterns of behavior, it’s all very very clear. He’s actively making plans for more including tomorrow. And this weekend he has a work trip that I am certain will provide further opportunities.

I am very sad.[/quote]

Sounds like sex addiction. He need therapy and quickly. This is definitely not about you and it’s not about any one woman, which I think is good. He is coping with a very poor strategy. This is fixable. It’s not like he fell in love with someone and carried on for many years (although even then, I’d venture there’s a way back to a genuine marriage). I’m the poster above who said I loved a non-monogamous man. This is different; like an alcoholic or drug addict, the brain doesn’t work properly and needs to be weaned off the dopamine and visopresin and then he needs strategies to avoid relapse.

Sending you big hugs, OP.[/quote]

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