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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To preface this, [b]I have asked to stop exchanging Christmas gifts among adults [/b]and no one agreed.

This year the older adults on both sides (parents and inlaws and one aunt) all said that the only thing they want for Christmas is a specific way of spending time with us.  One asked for monthly video calls, one asked for dinners out together, one asked to vacation together.  This sucks.  First of all[b] there is nothing to unwrap[/b], when they are getting my family many things to unwrap, so that doesn't work.  Second, these are people I already call weekly or see at least monthly, so it's kind of insulting for them to ask for this time as a gift, as if we ignore them.  And third -- if we wanted to do these things we'd be doing them: the kids don't do well on video calls, [b]we are not dining indoors yet[/b], etc.  It feels manipulative.

I am an adult with a good income to buy what I want for my family, but I still put together a small list of physical gifts when relatives ask what my family would like.  Sometimes this means postponing a purchase it would be more convenient to make myself, but I do it so they can give a wrapped gift like they want to.  I wish they'd be mature enough to do the same -- OR stop exchanging gifts.  [/quote]

You ask to stop exchanging gifts, but then whine that there will be nothing to unwrap... you seem confused.

If people don't want physical gifts then don't; give physical gifts. If you don't like the gift to time they requested think of something else. personally I hate most physical gifts, especially giving gifts just to give gifts.

Is it 2020... who the hell is still not dining indoors... only on DCUM. 
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