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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who kids become as people largely depends on their experiences growing up. It depends on the type of family they have, but also on the teachers and friends. If I think my children will become more confident, able to stand up for themselves, comfortable around intelligent and educated people, feel valued as people, aim higher because of what they are exposed to, etc. then yes, it is worth it for me.

For us private school for 3 kids is a stretch, but we feel it’s totally worth it. We are at top private schools and that is all I know (and public). I don’t know if I would feel the same at other schools[/quote]

I had to laugh at this post. As a public school family, my kids absolutely have all of those things. Come on. Comfortable around intelligent and educated people? My kids’ great great grandmothers are all college educated and everyone has advanced degrees. Two of my child’s public school teachers have PhDs this year. My kids are super confident and aim very high. MCPS, like any school or school system, certainly has flaws. But all the values PP listed can absolutely be emphasized for FREE at public. [/quote]

We have been to both MCPS and Big 3…. Sorry, but you are wrong. The difference is huge in what the kids actually get (especially from the teachers and the smaller class size). But keep telling yourself whatever makes you feel better.
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Agree that those who "laugh at" the other post just do not know better.[/quote]

I am the poster that laughed. If you read my post (and the post I was responding to), you would see that I did not say anything about “what the kids actually get” or “small class sizes.” I find it frankly offensive and condescending that you think I “just do not know better.” I think there are absolutely advantages and aspects private schools offer that make the investment worth it for some students or families. I just don’t think any of the things the person I was responding to are those things. That poster basically said private schools provide confidence, external motivation, comfort around intelligent people, and the ability to self-advocate. My point was that those things are easily and commonly provided at public schools and in the homes of public school families. Had the poster said she invests in private schools because she values small class sizes, single sex education (if applicable), student body where certain behaviors are screened or counseled out, etc. I’d say that yes, those are not things the public can or will offer. [/quote]

Of course you can learn those things in public, but private school students and parents self select. All private school kids/parents value education, extracurricular, travels, etc. All kids in private do those things. All children are high achievers (not some or a few). Not having problem children in class means that the two teachers my daughter has cal focus on all the children equally. Having smaller class size means that all kids (shy or not) learn public speaking because they make presentations everyday. Having a psychologist in the school means my daughter was able to work with a person who knew her, her friends, her unique situation… I could keep going… you don’t get this anywhere else.

This is why we sacrifice for private[/quote]

I am laughing again. We have school psychologists in public, they know our kids well, and we all travel too, believe it or not, though I’m not sure why you care if your kids classmates spent Winter Break at home vs. the Caribbean. The assertion that all children in private are high achievers (not some or a few) is also ridiculous, and I’m sure many posters on this board who send their kids to private can clarify that they made that choice because their kids had an academic need or were getting overlooked because they were not performing quite as well as the tippy top achievers in public. What you’re really saying is that everyone is wealthy and they’ve curated an environment so your snowflake doesn’t have to deal with people you consider beneath you. That’s right, you won’t get that in public. Thank goodness, because you sound insufferable. [/quote]

+1000. I have experience with private and public. [/quote]

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