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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Woman here and I totally disagree. It’s one weekend. You can arrange childcare. If it were a woman being fêted for some combo of 40th bday and making partner, she would be fuming that she had to ask, and that DH was giving her chores to do for her own celebration, and tasking her with childcare all weekend. And people here would be saying “tell him what you want.” OP, if you’re going to celebrate him, and people are coming in from out of town, do it right. Don’t be passive aggressive.[/quote]

OP here. I don't think that parenting in our home for the 6 hours before a party starts is giving my DH chores or tasking him with childcare all weekend. He is implying that he should be able to/wants to basically be MIA the whole weekend and the party and the kids are my responsibility. As in, if he wants to spend the morning and afternoon before the event golfing with his college buddies, he should be able to, and the kids are my responsibility. AKA he gets to check out completely from any responsibility.[/quote]
What you posted here is completely reasonable. You are being a brat.

You will also have guests around that you are responsible for as the host. You should hire childcare so that you’re not running in a million directions. Or you should have hired a party planner to run the event and you handle the kids.[/quote]

I think it’s not *unreasonable* but if it’s not what she offered he should be asking nicely rather than assuming he gets to take this and run. If my DH had a lot of friends in town who he doesn’t get to see often I would want to facilitate as much time with them as possible. But I would not throw a giant party that required oversight by me because I don’t have a lot of people who can handle my kids. So basically him acting entitled is gross but what he wants is not. In my opinion. It’s just a shame you guys didn’t have a discussion about what you were willing to take on/what he wanted- [b]if he wanted a weekend with the guys that is easy enough to facilitate but maybe not the same time as a big party. [/b]

Also dying to know what the big milestone is… please tell us. I’m assuming it’s not something that remotely merits all of this (because unless he got elected president I can’t think what would) but I’m SO curious [/quote]
If these people are coming into town it’s the perfect time for him to spend time with his guests. Spending a second weekend with his friends would result in 1000% more complaints from OP. [/quote]

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