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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you again for your responses, I am definitely thinking about this issue from new perspectives.

I am curious: how would you come to an acceptance about the fact that your only child has little to no extended family?  I ruminate about this all the time.  This upsets/worries me constantly because I worry that my child, who already feels lonely as an only, will feel all alone in the future.  My parents are completely disengaged grandparents, my sister has no interest in a relationship and I only see her once every few years and she's really not an aunt to my son, and my in-laws are incredibly dysfunctional.  I feel upset and disappointed in my own family's lack of interest in me and my son.  They are happy with the occasional phone call and don't feel a need to see us or visit more than once a year or every few years.

Most of my friends/acquaintances have very involved and engaged grandparents/aunts, uncles and cousins and they have big, warm loving extended families for their kids and fun holidays.  In contrast we don't spend any holidays with family (due to their lack of interest plus the distance) so we have no holiday memories with family.  In general, we don't see family that often and when we do it's not a very enjoyable time for any of us.  My son doesn't really know his extended family very well.

I am really disappointed that our families don't value family and am having a hard time making peace with this and moving on.  And this is part of why I spent 8 years TTC because I really wanted to grow my own family.

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