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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Life is full of trade offs.[/b] Long hours and few financial worries seems like a fair trade off to me. Money can't buy happiness, but for fairly well grounded people it can smooth over enough rough spots to make life fairly pleasant. [/quote]
This.  [/quote]

Time with our children, grandchildren, parents, etc. is really not something to "trade off." IMHO, those who truly think that way need to reconsider. Some posters here are [b]choosing to ignore the fact that there's a wide range between poverty and working so many hours that you rarely have time with your family. [/b][/quote]
Oh, brother. The thread was directed to those married to a big law partner. So for the most part we're already talking about 1%ers.  And I don't know of anyone who says their big law partner spouse "rarely" has time with the family.    But believe what you will.  [/quote]

Really? Most of the descriptions here sound like "rarely" to me.

I think there are a few families that can weather the law partnership (and a few very lucky law partners in a niche that doesn't actualky require them to work insane hours). I see the biggest threat not to the kids, but to the marriage. Even though money can oay for extra help, mom (and it is almost always mom) will end up being a virtual single parent. A nanny can make this technically ceasible, but not emotionally.  If the wife is happy to take on this role - and doesn't care about her career - then it can work. But it often ends in bitterness and alienation.

Another extremely important thing is the partner's own happiness. Working extreme hours is only pyshologically healthy for a smalk number of people. If the partner is a typical unhappy lawyer, then that will damage the family - even if he manages to eek out time with the kids.[/quote]

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