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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm your DH in this situation (though I also handle kid appointments). I think it's more about wishing my spouse took the initiative to try to learn to resolve household repairs that seem complicated and can cost $150 a pop, but actually do only require a 15 minute YouTube video and $20 in parts (and you learn something along the way!). We do have plenty of funds available to call a handyperson whenever, but it just seems pretty lazy to do so without at least doing an initial assessment of the risks/whether the problem is DIYable.

I actually just fixed our washer (agitator wasn't rotating) and dryer (drum wasn't rotating) and they were decently easy fixes - having a handyperson would've been $100 for an diagnostic visit alone (each) plus parts (upcharged by 3x) and additional labor - so probably $350+. Whereas it took me total of 2 hours and $40 in parts + I gained some knowledge in case of future problems. Yes, I'm proud of it, haha.

Now, for more complicated or dangerous tasks (electrical/plumbing), it's easier to justify calling a handyperson the first time around.

So with that in mind, it could help to do a quick google/YouTube lookup of the issue and its solution. If it seems doable, give it a shot, you might be surprised! If not, well at least you tried. If your DH is like me, I think he'd appreciate the effort and I think that's what matters most.[/quote]

So, I get your point of view and I think it's valid, but I feel like this is a part of a bigger discussion with a spouse about spending and what's important to each partner.

I can't think of any home repair type thing I've done that's taken 15 minutes of tutorial and one trip to get $20 of parts. Not even when the kids accidentally ground up a small glass in the garbage disposal. I would not be amused if my husband gave me a hard time for hiring a handyman if we could afford it with the attitude that, hey, a few hours of your day is worth less than my annoyance at spending money we have.[/quote]

I think it's actually more of an issue of how you problem solve. The thing is OP hasn't specified what these tasks are (other than them being boring/routine, which makes me think they're relatively easy to take care of) or whether she's taken the 10 minutes to assess whether they're doable from a time/$$ standpoint. I think it's hard to argue whether something should be an annoyance without at least that initial assessment of the time/$$ of the problem. If after that, you still find it annoying, then okay.

Btw it's going to take 5 minutes anyway to find a vendor, discuss the problem, and get a quote.

Also "a few hours of your day" is an investment for solving recurring issues and ongoing maintenance, which I think most posters are ignoring. [/quote]

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