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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want to thank you for everyone's input.  I greatly appreicate the support on my concern which confirms that I am not out of line here.  I have listed her schedule out for my DH and make him realize how full her schedule is with the enrichments (14 classes total).  I hope he will realize how full her place is and will backdown.

Although about 60-70% of the enrichments are taking place in school.  She does get taken away from her daily routine interaction with her classmates.  She seems to enjoy all her classes and not complaining about anything except I noticed she complains about not get to play enough and tell me and her teachers she is tired.

I know my DH comes from good heart because he only want the best for her.  He does help taking her to classes.  I just feel it is a bit overboard and hope he will realize that my concern is legit and is not about him, but about our DD's.

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Good luck.  One other thing I wanted to add is that it is important that DH gives weight to your concerns.  I'm probably more of Tiger mom in the relationship and at times it frustrates the heck out of me that DH doesn't see things the way I do and he wasn't raised the same way I was raised.  Sometimes it seems that he takes things for granted while my family was more of the mind that you need to be twice as good ...   That said, I also saw my mom ignore my dad's perpective and to be honest that caused a lot of marital friction.  In hindsight, my dad wasn't wrong and my mom wasn't wrong.  We needed a balance between my dad's approach to get out and play more, hang out with our cousins, get to go into the city etc. along with my mom's enrichment and education focus.  I keep thinking the alternate universe where my parents compromised and no parent was marginalized, where we got both the how to get along in the sandbox skills along with the academic enrichment, and we learned from a place of stability where parents are united versus instability where everything was an argument with the parents and you could never make both parents happy and felt you were siding with one parent because of the activity or school choice you made ...yes that alternative universe would have been great.  So as frustrated as I can get with DH, I try to make my childhood reality mean something.  I have it in my power to give my children what I didn't have and it isn't about it being a lot of enrichment activities.[/quote]

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