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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a therapist. This would have to be reported.

And I agree with the PP, this should not be your biggest concern.[/quote]

What? Because he grabbed the kid? God help our culture if we think it's better to lock up a parent or divorce him because he grabbed his kid too hard in a moment of frustration. Where is the compassion? Where is the proportionality? It really doesn't sound like he was trying to hurt the kid. Maybe he didn't realize how much force he was applying. Maybe he didn't realize the point at which he woudl leave a mark. And what's "a mark," anyway - a bruise? The slight discoloration in skin that comes from pressure or heat and then dissipates after a few seconds? As long as he now acknowledges that he squeezed too tight, I think everyone needs to get over it.[/quote]

I know. It is ridiculous. Kid was screaming inside, and parents aren't supposed to be able to do anything about it.[/quote]

Well, it is pretty ridiculous that the only thing OP's DH thought to do about it was grab the kid hard enough to leave marks.  It's a reflection of his limited capability to respond - it's actually scary that a grown man couldn't find any other way than to get physical.  I can think of plenty of many other ways to respond that would have been appropriate.  [/quote]
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It also sounds like this was his reaction in front of OP. I dread to think of what his reaction wools have been if there had not been another adult present. OP you are failing as a parent and/or likely abused at least mentally if this is what you are worried about. Your child is not being protected by you and is learning not to rely on you either. No wonder the child was screaming. Imagine how helpless she must feel if she’s in a house where she certainly knows her dad has a hair trigger temper and her mom is letting him get away with it. OP your judgement is poor so you should at least be honest w/ the therapist or this will be a waste of everyone’s time. [/quote]

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