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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well I'm a woman and I'd consider it.  Esp. if you are making $150k and he is covering expenses.  I'd max out my retirement savings.  Save for a down payment and buy a property of my own.  Rent it out.  Make him provide you with life insurance.  (Happy to do the same for him).  Set up a trust for the children where all his assets go in the event of his death.  Make him agree to fund 529s or whatever for the kids.  Figure out what you would be entitled to today if you really did get divorced, and ask him to put that amount in an IRA for me.  Or not.  Point being I could happily live on my salary if someone else was paying all the bills.  Also you are entitled to his social security if you are married a decade (I believe).

Why don't you talk to an attorney and find out how people usually arrange post nups so they are fair and equitable, and protect yourself in the event of a future divorce.  Put in a clause, "null and void if he cheats and or/files for divorce within (x) years, in case that is his plan.

There are always compromises that can be made.  [/quote]

What planet are you on. Love the people who say they would sure do everything separate and then give a long list of major expenditures they would “make” him do. Separate means you can’t make him to anything, and that he would not be gifting all these things for OP’s peace of mind.[/quote]

Sounds like he earns most of the money so it isn’t hers to give.

Everything is negotiable.[/quote]

I don’t think you grasp what “separate” means.[/quote]

I don't think you grasp that just because he wants "separate" doesn't mean she has to give him exactly what he wants.[/quote][/quote]

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