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[quote=Anonymous]I had 3 kids between 29 and 34. We planned on 2, but had a surprise third. I am not low energy, had full time help and it was exhausting. Granted I have a FT job.
The thing that nobody talks about is that while in the baby years you can be replaced by a nanny, in the later years, kids need their mom and only their mom and you can’t be replaced.
Let me explain. A baby or toddler needs to be fed, put to sleep, burped, play ball, etc. it does not matter who does these tasks as long as they are done well… these jobs CAN be outsourced (and I did outsourced them).

When the kids start elementary school, their needs change. They still need food, sleep and play, but they can do all of that on their own. What they do need is to talk about their lives, deal with issues they are facing, learn to read, write, deal with failure, heartbreak, rejection, etc. These are the things that you can’t outsource. Doing it for 3 kids is a lot.
Perhaps I am closer to my kids than most, but I find this phase of life much harder than the previous one. 
Maybe things are easier when kids are between 3 and 6-7, but having 3 kids means that you don’t have a sweet (easy) time with all 3 at the same time.

It would be easier of course if I did not have to work FT, did not have to travel from time to time, etc. but we decided to put our kids in private school and that means 40-50k per kid per year so I have to work to make it doable. [/quote]

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