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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you ARE playing the victim.

Here’s the funny thing with college: in DC we all tend to feel we owe it to our kids. But ultimately, that is a value judgment. Plenty of people think you should find your own way in the world…a lot of kids get cut off at age 18. Some will join the military for the GI Bill, some will do ROTC on campus; some will work for a company that gives scholarships and use it at a community college. There are ways to make things happen.

You seem to be all about you. Have you ever bothered to contemplate what led to your dad’s drug dependence? Maybe he has mental health demons of his own, but you want to only see him as a selfish jerk who didn’t give you what you wanted. You don’t have to put up with the bad behavior. For your own good, though, trying to view him with some compassion rather than vitriol might be better for your own state of mind. [/quote]

I was a victim as a child. That is true and you have no idea what it's like to grow up with parents who aren't present. Drug addicts are selfish. [/quote]

OK, but you should have started with this instead of going down political rabbit holes or the student loan rabbit hole.
At some point you will have to decide when enough is enough.
I had to cut off ties with a VERY passive aggressive older brother whom I bailed out financially several times, but he still went behind my back to poison relationships with my cousins who were obnoxious and vey opinionated. 
I finally met with one cousin, shared facts ( he was speechless that the baby of the family was sticking up for himself), and at end of dinner/ meeting I respectfully, but firmly told him not to contact me, my wife, or our family again.
Word got back to my brother who said he wanted to make amends, but then said and immediately went  to I should "let go of my anger".
That was when I knew I had to say goodbye.
He completely did not get it and I am much happier without him.and them.
You may need to go there. Only you can decide.[/quote]

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