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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I spent years advocating for people with disabilities but I also spent years in the criminal justice system and I think knowing how awful this world can be I would not personally want to bring a disabled child into it, because eventually I would not be there to protect them. Other people see the world differently and are more hopeful about human nature. I’m sorry that some people have made you feel bad about having your child but consider that they may not be coming from a place of judging your child as underserving of being here, but rather as terribly vulnerable. It’s certainly a more pessimistic outlook but it isn’t intended as cruelty to you they more likely feel sympathy for the anxiety you will no doubt carry all your life and more as you age and know your child will be at the mercy of strangers for years after you are gone.[/quote]

I have an uncle with downs who had a fairly good life (my grandfather was wealthy and left enough money for him to be put him in a group living situation until he died in his 50s). I have a sister who died in her 30s from a chronic autoimmune disease - she progressively deteriorated over the last 15 years of her life and was immobile and nonverbal for the last year of her life. Another aunt lost 3 of her 5 kids to a genetic condition. I am not uneducated or mean, but seeing these all play out makes it [b]hard for me to understand why one would knowingly bring a child into the world with the potential for significant disabilities. [/b]
 
FWIW, I have a child with a disability (unknown genetic syndrome) and while things are ok now, it’s stressful not knowing what the future might bring. We are high income and it allows us the ability to pay for lots of therapies to allow my child to be mainstreamed at school. We didn’t know how it was going to go te first year. I hope my child does genetic testing of their embryos if they are able to/choose to have children. This wold be very stressful it we didn’t have resources.[/quote]

No one is asking you to "understand." The OP is simply asking people not to make rude, judgemental, and unsolicited comments about her child's condition. It really isn't that hard![/quote]

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