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[quote=Anonymous]I know I'm stereotyping OP but your hobbies/interests sound like those that people would be more likely to have in a bigger city. Plus the fact that you don't have kids-there would be a greater number of people without kids in a larger metropolitan area. Are you and your DH committed to staying in your small town? If you're flexible, I would think about moving. In a larger metropolitan area there would be more Meet Up groups or other organizations you could join where you could find people you are more likely to have things in common with.

I also don't have kids and I think unfortunately for women in particular it can make establishing new adult friendships more challenging (particularly in your 30's, 40's and early to mid 50's).

I can totally understand why you want honesty from the women who haven't responded to your texts. But on the other hand, how awkward and uncomfortable would it be to continue to see them if they told you that the reason was because of a characteristic they found annoying? On the one hand, if it was something I could "fix" I would want to know but on the other hand it might make me super self-conscious and anxious. And sometimes the reason isn't because of a characteristic that's annoying-it's because of where you are in life or just not completely clicking with someone for whatever reason. I've been on both sides of this situation. There was a woman I used to work with in my 20's who I really liked and looked up to (she was about 10 years older than me)-I tried to establish a friendship outside of work with her and it didn't happen. We were "work buddies"-she wasn't interested in anything beyond that and once she left the company I never heard from her again. On the other hand, I'm currently casual friends with a woman who initially seemed to want to have a closer friendship with me. I enjoyed (and still enjoy) seeing her occasionally but I find her intimidating at times and she has very different political beliefs than I do. While I like her, I always feel a little on edge. There's nothing that she's doing wrong and nothing that needs to be "fixed"-we're just really different. [/quote]

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