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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't have another kid for your kid.  Have one because you want one.  Adults who were only children and adult who have siblings can all turn out to be functioning members of society.  The are benefits and downsides to both.  That's just life.  And don't make your child your everything - you deserve a life too.  [/quote]
This.  Kids aren't gifts for other kids.  Have a second if you want one.  Don't have a second if you don't.  The book *One and Only* is useful in terms of breaking down myths about only kids being lonely, selfish, or otherwise maladjusted.  In fact, they are most like oldest children in terms of personalities, to the extent that birth order matters.  There's a chapter in *NurtureShock* that's also useful.

My only child is happy, social, outgoing, has lots of friends, and is quite generous and capable of sharing.  She enjoys more of our time, attention, and resources.  We can do things that we wouldn't be able to afford or manage logistically if we had more.  I have more energy and am able to be more patient.  There are advantages and disadvantages to every family configuration, and nothing is guaranteed, because a lot of it depends on the child(ren)'s temperament(s) and the family's circumstances.  So ask yourself if you want another child, and if you feel that you are capable of caring for that kid (especially given that you don't have a co-parent to help).[/quote]

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