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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH and I have decided the high performing Catholic high school will be the best school for our DD. (DH and I went to Catholic schools and really like the model of rules, high expectations, etc)

We have an older DS who is a Senior at the local "good" public high school, but we have been very disappointed with it.  Too huge, kid is quiet so gets totally overlooked, 504 plan for ADHD is basically ignored, little homework or way too much with no guidance.  I feel like it's not college prer, but rather "get the kid through and out"  We want much better for ou

So, we've told out 8th grader that she will be going to St. X school, but she is totally against it.  She wants the "easy" path of her older brother.  She's afraid of having 2-3 hours of homework per night.  She's says she'll have no friends (she's shy and only has 2 now), doesn't want to travel farther for it, etc.

I know St. X is the best place for her.  Can I make her go, or is she destined for failure if her heart isn't in it?[/quote]

It's a tough position for all of you. I was in your shoes not long ago, transitioning 4 children from public to Catholic school; among them there were various degrees of objection.

However, as their parent, I simply had to sit down and explain to each of my children that because I love them, and because I'm aware of certain things that they aren't aware yet about the way the world works and the importance of education, this was a decision that my spouse and I had to make for their own best interest.

We were fortunate enough to have a few different options to consider, and we involved them in that process, so they were able to have some input (although again, ultimately the decision was up to us as parents).

It's all worked out great! Sure, changing schools is never easy, and it's more difficult for some than others, but this happens to millions of kids every year as people move around the country for work etc. Especially in this area, kids come and kids go and I think that helps set the tone and makes children accepting of newcomers. Our children are thriving in their new schools; have made more friends than they had at their prior schools; and the angst about changing schools is a distant memory.

Now in fact we are juggling a similar issue but within the Catholic/private school universe. Our oldest is at Saint X and doing well. However, for various reasons, we think Saint Y is a better fit for our second child, and so we're getting a little pushback because she wants to do the same as her older brother; our third child is on track for yet a third high school.  Haha the fun never ends!  However, we approach it always the same way, and our children ultimately have confidence that we're making these decisions for well-thought out reasons with their best interest at heart, so we haven't had any issues.

Good luck whatever you decide -- I'm sure it will be OK.  [/quote]

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