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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your DH is saying he's not ready at 36 or older, after 4 years of marriage, I would be worried that he doesn't actually want kids. [/quote]

Cold hard truth right here.[/quote]

But this can be a wonderful thing.

My DH would have been happy with zero kids, or happy with 1-2. We ended up having one and it's good. But nowhere near the low-stress life we would have had with zero. Childless (some say child-free) life is fabulous, OP. Keep an open mind. [/quote]

Except DH can change his mind at any time, divorce her and marry a younger women. She cannot. [/quote]

This is a super unhealthy way to view things. [/quote]

This is a realistic way to view things.  For better or for worse, women have AT MOST 40-ish years of life to figure out if they want to be a biological parent.  Men have another several decades before that door closes.  So if a man “just doesn’t feel ready yet” he can keep goofing off for another 5, 10 whatever years and if he changes his mind, he can remarry or use a donor egg but if a woman would like to experience biological parenthood and she waited around too long to figure that out, her window is closed.  Are there other ways to be a parent than biologically?  Sure.  But it is a very different experience.  Anyone who has adopted and says that that’s not an emotionally complex experience is in denial and it’s really unhealthy for the child they are raising to be in denial about the fact that the child now essentially has two families and a history that is inherently somewhat traumatic.[/quote]

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