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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. The school and administration is working very hard, but there is just so much we can do. Student aren't afraid when their parents get a call from the principal. They have behavior charts, incentives, consequences. Rules, repetition, predictable schedules. The behavior continues. Sometimes immediately after it was addressed.

Even if you haven't recovered from the pandemic, you have to put the time into your kids, for their sake (and yours). Kids thrive with firm, loving boundaries. But we can't do this alone. I know this sounds grating to some, but I'm saying this all with sincerity. And I've talked to teachers in schools with different SES levels and it's a problem across the board. [/quote]

Kid's shouldn't be afraid when you call their parents. That type of scare parenting never worked and I'm glad we are moving away from it. I want my kids to know that [b]if I get a call that they are struggling I will love them and help them through it[/b]. Not "OMG mom's going to be so mad!". That tactic does work for some behavior modification, but it doesn't actually help any kids, and the kids you're talking about with chronic needs it definitely wont help.

Agree with putting time in to kids and understanding boundaries, but don't agree with parents being scary.[/quote]

I literally laughed at this. They're ignoring the teacher telling them to sit down and  stop talking, they keep shoving kids when they're in line, they keep throwing things, and you view this as a day when they struggled and you want to show your kid extra compassion and love? What, you think they need more loving attention from you? NO! They need to be punished for their crappy behavior and  told in no uncertain terms to knock it off. [/quote]

Delayed punishment and telling them to "knock it off" will not work for most children. Particularly children with actual impulse control issues (including chatting too much) because they are not making a choice to behave a certain way. Their brains just literally don't know any other way to behave. So you need to figure out how to help them get their brains and bodies on board with this. Yelling at them to stop, or imposing some false punishment is just... not going to ever work. This obviously depends on age, history, and a lot of other factors, but yeah, in most instances I would give my child extra compassion if they were unable to keep up with classroom standards during the school day.[/quote]

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