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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So people younger than you aren’t allowed to gain more life experience and earned wisdom because they’re younger than you?

Yeah, you lost all sympathy with that premise. Lose the “Big Sister” schtick, OP. Not an attractive look on a woman pushing 40.[/quote]

My sister is 45, married 17 years. No kids. Im due with my fourth this week. She hasnt reached out at all. Please dont let your relationship suffer like ours has. :([/quote]

And you've told her how you feel about this by initiating a conversation with her about it, or are you simply waiting for her to intuit your utter disappointment that's been building for 17 years? Which is it?[/quote]

Too much to type out. She is 8 yrs older than me, if you have a sibling gap that large there are often dominant personalities that have a hard time seeing younger siblings as adults. I am referencing the Big Sister Shtick and jealousy of younger siblings life being very different. Hey, I get it. If my younger sibling had an incredible career that I did not achieve maybe Id withdraw, too. [/quote]

PP again... I am not going to chase her down to force her to react or perform feelings she doesnt have. Boundaries right?[/quote]

So you haven’t done the adult thing and told her how you’ve felt about her not engaging with you every time you’ve announced a pregnancy. You’ve simply decided that’s it more comfortable to sit back and judge her for not meeting your expectations. No one said she had to be forced to express feelings she might not have. This is about you feeling morally superior and taking no responsibility for the piss-poor relationship with your sister. Hell, for all you know, she’s been struggling with infertility. But hey, take comfort in your “boundaries.” Go you!
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