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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We call each other’s parents by their grandparent name. Mimi, Papa, Gigi, G’pa Don. [b]The irony here is that our own children call us parents by our first names more than half of the time. [/b]

I don’t know what we did before we had kids! I think just avoid it. [/quote]

New poster. Wait, what? You mean you own (presumably under 18 years old?) children call you "Sally" and "Bob" more than half the time, rather than whatever version of mother, father, mom, dad, etc. your nuclear family uses? Interesting. Not judging it, though I find it different, as I did when our niece would call her parents (my SIL and her husband) by their first names. Sounded so strange coming out of a little kid's mouth. She also called them mum and dad (UK, so "mum") but more often used their first names. Again, it was what SIL and BIL actually liked and preferred, so not judging, it just was odd to my ears until I got used to it!

I was raised in the US in a region where calling an adult, [i]any[/i] adult, by a first name unless very clearly asked to do so (and separately, [i]allowed[/i] to do so by one's own parents) would have been a big deal at the time I was growing up. So calling a parent by a first name would have been far beyond the pale in my childhood, for sure--it would have been seen as mocking and disrespectful. But again, times and places and generations matter.

I called my late, beloved in-laws by their first names and my DH called my mom by her first name. Can't remember how it began, even. All are gone now and to be honest, when I see people getting huffy about what to call in-laws and bristling at the idea of "I'm not about to call them mom and dad! They are not my parents!" as if angered by it -- wow, you don't have to call them mom and dad, just settle on something else and choose not to focus on it or be angry. Not worth it. I miss my in-laws all the time. [/quote]

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