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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Walk to school. Do an activity with other friends. Host a party or larger playdate. Do smaller one on one playdates with kids your kids really get along well with.[/quote]

OP. I'm doing all this, but many people are too busy to join activities, playdates, or parties. The only people who RSVP yes are socially awkward or boring. I feel like I'm doomed to hang out with people I don't actually like because all the interesting people's dance cards are full. [/quote]

No, it’s because most people have learned that it’s not good to try and be friends with your kid’s friend’s parents.  Some of us have older children.  We have seen how those kids who got along wonderfully for most of elementary school start drifting apart later and sometimes feelings are hurt.  The parents don’t understand how it’s a normal part of development and try to intervene, to hold onto the family get togethers.  It makes it worse.  If it’s still going on in middle school, the kids aren’t speaking and the parents are posting on the teen forum about how Jane is the victim of mean girl behavior and her mom, your close friend, won’t step in and make her daughter include Jane on sleepovers.  Take a look over there and see.

Save yourself the drama.  Find friends that are separate from your children. [/quote]

It’s actually great advice to not try to make whole-family friends

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OP. This is a very fair point that several people have made. But at this point in my life, I am with my kids when I am not working. I enjoy getting together with other families to go trick or treating or apple picking or out to dinner or to take a vacation together. I guess having had family friends and seen how amazing it is when it all clicks, I am really missing it.

I'm under no illusions that it will be forever. In fact, some of my friends in my last hometown and I started growing apart even before most of us in the group moved away. But it was fine, no drama, we enjoyed it while it lasted and I would like to find that again.

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Asking a family to hang out with your family is a talk order. What does your family being to the table? |[/quote]

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