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[quote=Anonymous]I suspect the point everyone is missing here is that you had your first child just a month ago. That is a huge transition for all parents. As much as it’s hell on a mother’s body, psyche, and sleep, it’s a different kind of hell for fathers. Pregnancy didn’t affect them in the same way, so they tend to have their “oh crap, I’m a PARENT now!” moment right after the first child is born. Plus, fathers are still socialized to see themselves as “providers” even in families where both parents work. The idea of owning vs renting, and/or of needing to save on extra expenditures like exorbitant rent is quite possibly tied into all these emotional transitions. Even the comments about all the baby stuff could be an issue of adjusting to the fact that the baby has tangibly, visibly taken over your lives now.

Point is, these are emotional issues and they may be more subconscious than fully conscious. You can parse playrooms and commutes and property taxes all you want, but it doesn’t get to the emotional issues that may be driving his real estate impulses right now. Try having a discussion about how you’re both *feeling* right now, and see if you can work some open-ended, non-judgmental thoughts and questions about your living situation into that discussion. [/quote]

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