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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I had our first baby last month and we lived in a 1bd 1ba apartment, and moved to a 2bd 2ba apartment in the same building. He wanted to buy a condo, but we decided to keep renting. The high rise building we are in is expensive but we have so many amazing amenities, stores within walking distance, and close to both of our work. We plan to have another child within the next two years and then will buy a house. He seemed okay with this situation after some discussions, but now he has again been bringing up the topic of buying a condo. He found a 2b 2ba condo in an elevator building. It is nice but it’s farther from work and in a different area. It doesn’t make sense to buy a condo and then look for a house in 2-3 years. I feel like he is very passive aggressive lately - “wow, this place is small with all the baby stuff”, “man, I wish we had more space”, and “ I wish I had a private balcony”. It’s very irritating and I feel like he now holds it against me. I know we made the right decision. How do I get him to stop making me feel bad for a decision we both agreed upon? [/quote]

Once kids are toddlers, they will be asleep, in day care, preschool, before school, school, after school, sports, park, activities for most waking hours while you two will be at work, dinning out commuting, shopping,visiting parents/in-laws or hauling kids around. Kids don't really need much space in today's lifestyle, we just think they do. As long as your building as some common spaces and there is a playground nearby, you are good. Just don't collect foo much stuff, they'll quickly outgrow it anyway.

That being said, a condo may not be your dream home but its still your own and helps build equity so it's not a bad idea. Get one, live there until your income and savings are at a level to buy a bigger place. Having your own place gives you security in case life throws curveballs, some of the security is real and some is perceived but both good for mental security.

As a compromise, see if you can buy a condo in your area. Young marriages are a challenge with little babies and financial struggles, only way to come out strong is to join hands. Both of you need to deposit kindness, thoughtfulness and cooperation into marital bank to withdraw. 
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OP here. I’m not buying a condo. We are not that young and we don’t have financial struggles. [/quote]

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