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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like sending out nice gifts to family. Nothing crazy, but more than what we’d send to kids’ friends’ Bdays.

One specific family member always brings $20 max gifts, without a receipt and sometimes they seem like regifts.

Now I know that I shouldn’t be presumptuous with other peoples money, bc they don’t have to, but it feels disrespectful, and it really annoys me, because I know for sure it’s not an affordability issue.

This is more of a vent, but is it common? [/quote]

I remember many years ago when I had my first job, which didn't pay a lot, that I knitted a cable knit sweater for my boyfriend for Christmas.  Woodward and Lothrop (Woodies) would teach knitting if you purchased a certain amount of yarn from them.  I started this sweater in July and went two days a week after work and on Saturday to knit this sweater for him

I finished it right after Thanksgiving and I couldn't wait to give it to him.  He didn't react the way I had hoped when he opened it and said  "You are so cheap that you didn't even spend money on me.  I can't believe you gave me a homemade present."  I started crying and grabbed it back and broke up with him on the spot.

Obviously, he was a first class jerk but my point is that when you receive a gift, be gracious.  I suspect that you would have the same reaction he had if you received a "homemade" gift.[/quote]

You suspect wrong. I have also given homemade gifts to my significant other and other people, and the gifts were very well received. I’m proud and happy about that.

Kids don’t care if you put time and effort into their gift, unless that’s what they really want, and what they want is not otherwise available. I would never spend that much time in other people’s kids’ gifts. Sorry.

I’m always graciously accepting a gift, but sometimes that’s to be polite, not because I like the gift. I’m not offended if people don’t like my gifts, that’s why I include gift receipt. I’m not arrogant enough to think I always get it right.

Today’s life is full of consumerism, and people aren’t excited about anything, because they have everything, and even if I were super confident in my gift, the people could already have that thing. So a gift receipt is always warranted in my book.

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He wasn't a kid but a 25 year old man!  [/quote]

Sorry about your disappointment. This thread was not about you. [/quote]

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