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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate gift giving. I hate getting items that I don’t want and then have to figure out if I can donate or return them. Often they just wind up as trash, which is pretty terrible. I don’t want our house cluttered with random, useless items. We have limited storage and I’m not using it for things we’ll never need and don’t like. I also hate spending money and energy picking out gifts for other people. Birthdays are fine because it’s one at a time and you can be more thoughtful, but the holiday season is awful. I wind up buying things just so it looks like I’m willing to spend money on others, and it’s really wasteful.

Last year I told my family I didn’t want to receive any gifts and that I wouldn’t be giving them, and I got a ton of pushback and anger in response. I’d love to forego them going forward but it was a huge issue for our families. [/quote]

I am with you. I think we could all help save the environment and save ourselves stress by simply giving up exchange of material things and just be kind and decent to eachother as a gift. It says a lot about people when they get angry and basically they care about exchanging stuff. I did not care about pushback. I made it clear. My sister, who is not a kind person is the worst about imposing junk on others. I have made it clear, the gift is kindness and decency. We do not want stuff. She kept doing it and starting drama when she didn't get thank you notes. Then she started drama about how rude it is to refuse to accept gifts. How is it a gift to give people things when they asked you to stop and then to get so full of indignation when they keep a boundary. We are closer with cousins and they were fine with it. We actually enjoy gatherings and the gift is beautiful memories of positive interactions. I find the people who are so rigid about how we must do these junk exchanges are people who are not very happy people and tend to be unpleasant to be around. [/quote]

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