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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 44 and will be 45 in December and this thread is scaring me😫[/quote]

I'm turning 44 next week and they said all this about turning 25 and 30 and 40. Sure, we are aging but a few lines and droopy bits are not the end of the world. I was a stunner and had a lot of fun when I was younger. I'm ready for the next stage, look forward to having kids in high school and eventually college (mine are very young still), refocusing on my marriage, friends and career... What truly scares me is my parents getting sick and dying, but I am hoping for at least another good decade with them. The lines and sag you can fix if they really bother you. Don't let the rest of life pass you buy because you're 10lbs overweight or have jowels.[/quote]

Ah, and I thought that too at 44 because I still looked young and healthy. :)[/quote]

I do think aging hits people that were very attractive/beautiful harder.  You notice the social clues much more and the attention you used to get.  I say that as a STEM professional, athlete that always had much more going than just looks.  But, I know some people that look pretty much the same at 45 that they did at 25 because they looked 45 when they were 25.  It's hard to contemplate and easy to say it doesn't matter when you don't know any difference.[/quote]

I would amend this. I think some people have a kind of ageless beauty that ages well. Basically, if you have great bone structure, your odds of aging well go WAY up.[b] Some people with good bone structure actually look better as they age because they lose that layer of fat from youth and it reveals really beautiful features underneath.[/b]

Other people's looks rely on stuff other than bone structure. Some women have very youthful looking faces (heart shaped "baby" faces, plump cheeks). Or they have curvy figures with great cleavage and a great butt. Or their looks rely a lot on upkeep -- perfectly styled hair, skill with makeup, knowing how to dress themselves. All of this can age poorly. If your looks rely on plump cheeks, you are going to go from looking young for your age to looking old as soon as you lose the fat there. A curvy figure is so hard to maintain in middle age, especially if you are under 5'3", and it might just 10-15 lbs that make the difference between hot and heavy. And some women don't know how to adjust their styling as they age. You can't wear as much makeup in middle age, it settles and ages you further. Older hair doesn't respond the same way to color or styling. And there's this dance with clothing, too -- if you keep dressing in very on-trend fashion it can make you look like you are trying too hard, plus lots of fashions that look youthful on women in their 20s are actually aging on older women, like the prairie dresses or wide leg pants of recent years.

Beauty is beauty. If you have a striking face and beautiful features, you aren't going to suddenly lose them when you turn 40. But a lot of people's looks aren't actually based on beautiful features. They are based on youth and body type and styling. Aging give it away, unfortunately.[/quote]

That is me!  I hated my 'chipmunk cheeks' and super round face all the way into my mid 20s.  But, as I aged my high cheekbones and jawline became more prevalent. It was funny how I had to beat men away with a stick starting around age 25/26--not in high school or college.  Late bloomer. And, I don't look gaunt or skeletor since I lost volume in my face that I could stand losing.[/quote]And I wish I could get my chipmunk cheeks back! My face looked so good while I was pregnant, but any other time I gain weight it goes to my hips and not my face.[/quote]

DP and I am the opposite -- I hated my pregnancy chipmunk cheeks (which also came with a pregnancy double chin), and I look so much better without the extra fat. But I do have high cheekbones and a nice jaw line.[/quote]

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