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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, obviously all other things being equal, 1 child is a lot less work than 2 or 3+.

I have 3 under 9 and we are busy. I am still able to workout a bit because work is flexible and I work from home so I always find time to go for a 30 min run. Money is much tighter than if we were only putting 2 child through private school, etc.

But I also would never want to have an only and that’s why I have 3. My kids play (and sometimes fight) together all the time, they have their own unique relationships and they are teaching so much to one another. [b]My kids’ lives are so much richer than they would have been had they been onlies[/b].

We all prioritize and want different things. The lucky ones are the ones that are able to have what they want… including parents of onlies. [/quote]

The bolded is not true but I'm glad you got the family you want and it sounds like your kids are having a great childhood. But that's a loaded judgment that is false, it's like people who don't think you can have a meaningful life without becoming a parent or people who think SAHMs can't have intellectual stimulation in their lives. It's based on a narrow experience that assumes the alternatives are not as good. They are, they are just different.[/quote]

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Eh.  I’m a NP who also has three kids.  That they have each other as siblings enriches their lives in specific ways, at least as children.  It also means trade-offs of less enrichment around things like specialized camps, lots of activities and extracurriculars, etc., because we don’t have the resources (of all kinds) to give those to each kid.  I wouldn’t necessarily say my kids live richer lives than only children, but [b]they do have sibling relationships that only children, by definition, don’t have.  Mostly, so far, I think those are for the better.
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I also work FT and have time to myself.  My youngest is six, which helps, but I have always made time for daily exercise and with friends, at the very least.  Now I’m at the point of being able to read for pleasure, which I love.  If I really wanted to do a pottery class or something, DH and I could work it out.  I also agree with a PP who said to embrace this season of life - I signed up to be a working mom of three kids, so I’m certainly not going to complain about it.  I feel like I won the damn lottery.[/quote]

Maybe for YOUR kids. Man you people are myopic. It's really sad. [/quote]

[b]Please have your kids come back and report in 40 years when they are fighting over your elder care or estate.[/b] [/quote]

Christ on a cross, you people are defensive.  It's staggering, truly.

The bolded is one of the most disgusting things I've ever read on DCUM and I've been on here way too long.[/quote]

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