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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here once again ... There seem to be a lot of frustrated keyboard warriors and know-it-all, holier-than-thou types on this thread, who delight in criticizing me for all the things I allegedly didn't do, while very conveniently ignoring the things I did do for my father. Whatever.

None of you on this whole thread have actually said what they think I should/could have done in PRACTICAL AND REALISTIC terms.

If you had been in my shoes while my father was ill for 3 years until he passed away, what would you have done?

Take into account the fact that moving back home to live close to my father was never an option. I didn't want that, my husband didn't want that and even my father didn't want that.

Also, I worked for a school at the time and when you work for a school you can't just take time off work whenever you want.

Some of you do sound angry and bitter.[/quote]

There's a lot of frustration from posters here b/c you refuse to acknowledge that your blaming your relatives is out of line. That's really the core issue. You came here to lay blame at their feet, and most ppl feel that it's unfair of you. [/quote]

OP. OK, yes I blamed them at the time but that was out of pure frustration and stress. Two years before he died my father was in hospital for 5 weeks. His foot had developed gangrene and they were able to save his leg - just in time. You can't believe the stress we were under. I lost a stone in weight from stress. That and a change in his personality.
Dad really needed practical help at home, even if he hadn't come to terms with it his own mind. He had always been his own boss and he wasn't always easy going.

I think my parents died far too young.

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They did and that is very sad. My own parents made it into their 90s, thanks to my brother insisting that they stay with him. It took a lot of convincing but that made all the difference.  All my parents’ friends that lived into their 80s and beyond had one or more of their children close by to oversee their affairs and health. [/quote]

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