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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NO DOGS. The uncle is doing a heavy lift and should not be further burdened. He deserves a break. I am so effing sick with dog owners who think they should never have to board their disgusting animals.[/quote]

Disagree. If taking the dogs is the way that the caregivers get a break, and no one is seriously allergic, the dogs go. But, dog owners are 100% responsible for cleaning up to the condition before the dogs got there. Or the dogs don't come again.

You can't get pissed when people help (regardless of how unfair the situation is) but you don't like the help offered. You'll be cutting off your nose to spite your face. [/quote]

And insisting that your dogs travel with you *into someone else’s home* is also controlling. This is her leverage to get out of any responsibility, which she’s doing nicely. He deserves a break, and to put down boundaries int he home AP that he is tasked with minding. The control /terrorize behaviour is “I won’t fairly meet my responsibilities unless you accommodate my dogs”. [/quote]

THIS RIGHT HERE. The uncle is also in charge of cleaning the house the vast majority of the time, and I don’t begrudge him not wanting to deal with the extra vacuuming, possible carpet cleaning from accidents, scratches on the floors, stench, and anything else the dogs may cause. I just had my aunt’s dog with me for a few days, and while I love that dog, there is a ton of extra vacuuming involved, the dog had a nervous accident I had to clean up (and I mean it was right after I took her on a 30-minute walk, so no, it wasn’t from lack of outside opportunity), and I had to open the windows for a few days to fully get rid of the dog smell.

The person who puts in beyond the lion’s share of work in this scenario is the one whose preferences should be observed.

Full. Stop.[/quote]

So now he has no help. Or he makes a young mother with a toddler leave her family for Thanksgiving and still only gets one week off. This is what being right gets him. [/quote]

I mean, it's this. He gets no help then. I guess he wins?

The person who is the caregiver, unfortunately, may have the moral right to make these demands. But, in reality, he has no right at all. That is the reality. So he gives a little here or he loses in the end.

You all can make all the moral judgments you want about what's right and wrong, blah, blah, blah. But in the end that doesn't matter.
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