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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would expect between $25-75 for a non Jewish kid attending solo.  Bonus points if it is in a multiple of 18 as that shows they tried and googled bat mitzvah gift or attended enough they picked up on multiples of 18 being traditional.

For non Jewish families attending I would expected between 100-250.

For Jewish kids 72 minimum unless there is a circumstance.

For family members - 500 minimum but my dd received 5000+ from multiple close family members.

This would be what I expect from guest at “typical fancy” DMV bay mitzvahs.[b]  They are as expensive as weddings - Saturday evening venue rental, food/cocktail hour, DJ, MC, dancers, lighting, “swag”, candy bars, photo booth[/b]. [/quote]

[b]What does the fancy-ness have to do with the gift?[/quote][/b]

I still don't understand this either. I mean, my wedding cost about $100,000 and we had fewer than 200 guests, so about $500 per head. I can think of a couple of relatives who "covered" that with their gift to us, but the vast, vast majority of our guests gave much, much less. The money we spent on the wedding was for our own enjoyment and that of our guests. We did not intend to recoup the costs through gifts. WTAF?!?!

Likewise, if I am invited to a bar/bat mitzvah, I do not expect pay for their reception. As it so happens, I have only been invited to two bar mitzvahs as an adult and both were in NYC and both were children of very close friends of ours. We have $360 to each and I thought that was more than generous. My kids have not yet been invited to any alone, but my son likely will soon. I imagine we will give $54 or $108, depending on how close he is to the kid. (I can see us doing a bit more for a best friend but his best friends are not Jewish.)[/quote]

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