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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He’s still married, for one. And unless he’s a robot he’s still very much grieving that marriage and he’s still thinking about what went wrong and he’s still hurt and mad at her. Alllll that will come up in your relationship in surprising ways.[/quote]

That is complete rubbish.

I was in a dead marriage for a number of years, yet provided for a stable home for by children until they went off to college, and had money set aside for them to graduate debt-free.]

Once I separated from my ex- years after marriage counseling collapsed, there was no grieving whatsoever. None. I had done what so many here on DCUM espouse - provided stability for my children. Once they were young adults living elsewhere, I had a tremendous sense of relief and peace.[/quote]

Adults I know who had parents who did this, and who found out their parents stayed together just for them have a lot of issues processing that.  It's not so altruistic as you seem to think it is. Maybe best to do some therapy and figure out why you seem to think you're the only one who's opinion mattered here. Did your kids agree to this bs fake upbringing? Did your wife agree to spend however many years with you knowing you were leaving asap after kids left?[/quote]

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