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[quote=Anonymous]I’m a first generation physician as well, parents were immigrants.
I still have an “I can do it all on my own” academic and work ethic that I unconsciously adopted from my parents who came with nothing, spoke minimal English and somehow managed to raise 3 children who all became physicians, with zero connections in helping build my resume, in getting accepted to medical school, residency etc.

I find I have to work to balance this way of thinking without veering towards nepotism - which I know exists but have a hard time with. 
So I think this is more complex issue, psychologically, than some PP can appreciate.  I also appreciate the idea that you don’t want your daughter to feel pressured by you to become a physician.

Still, she has taken the initiative to ask for opportunities to enhance her medical school application. You are already helping others. IMO you should help her similarly - instead of then spending time seeking opportunities, she can spend time experiencing the clinical or research opportunities and figure out if this is what she wants. If I were your daughter, I would actually feel you were thwarting my efforts in trying to get into medical school by refusing to help while you help others more “unfortunate”. [/quote]

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