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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like this thread is half people saying “well yes kids are individuals but here are the generalizations I’ve noticed in my own limited experience” and half people trying to point out that generalization are what lead to stereotypes and different expectations for boys and girls and big problems for those kids who don’t fit nicely into the stereotypes. I have a DD who loves pink, unicorns, has basically every stereotypically girl interest you could think of. She also has severe hyperactive ADHD. And people just can’t handle that combination. How can she love pink but be constantly running/climbing doing “tomboy things”. She must be wild and poorly disciplined. There is SO much judgment for girls who can’t sit nicely and color, expectations are SO high. I have a son too and it feels like everyday he’s basically being encouraged to do things that would get my DD in trouble because “oh, boys are so active, what are you going to do?” Makes me insane.[/quote]

My daughter is this way. Girly but ADHD hyperactive, with an incredibly high energy level, sensory seeking, and impulsive. She's pretty and petite and this combination leads to a lot of problems. Other girls moms are incredibly judgemental and she is more harshly criticized than boys who exhibit the same behavior. Expectations for girls are so severe compared to those of boys. I also have a boy, who is undoubtedly much lower energy than my daughter, but a "typical boy" in that he enjoys playing with trucks and dinosaurs. We get more comments about how he is "high energy" than we ever did about our daughter, and I'm convinced it is because of gender bias.[/quote]

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