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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, you are giving other kids an edge over your child in terms of application/admissions.  This makes no sense.  She's a good student, good child/adult, why would you punish her like this?[/quote]

No, she is trying to level the playing field. Instead of some kids having all the advantages (her daughter) and some having none (friends), they are trying to balance life out. OPs daughter has had a foundation of privilege, opportunity, and advantage. Using your connections to get your family members even further ahead just wides the gap. Nepotism happens everywhere but it doesn't mean it is good - it only widens the gap between the haves and the have nots. The other kids haven't had a foundation of privilege, opportunity and advantage so giving them a helping hand now after they put in a lot of heir own effort is helping to bridge that gap. Encouraging their daughter to put in some of her own effort versus adding more advantage isn't a bad thing. [/quote]

Thank you Bernie! You can help level the playing field without alienating your child. OP’s kid isn’t a trust fund baby and is very accomplished so no slacker. [/quote]

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