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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has he been screened for depression? I’d first look at some mental health issues that may be impacting his response. He may have been able to hold things together early on, but now need some more support. [/quote]

I hate these responses.  Disliking having kids doesn’t mean you have a chemical imbalance!  The DH wants quiet, adult conversations, freedom to lesnevthe house alone etc.  This isn’t depression!![/quote]

Who peed in your cereal this morning? OP wrote a long post that detailed the many ways her husband is behaving. She said her husband is “sad for a few days.” [b]He’s complaining all the time. He’s too tired on the weekend. [/b]Of course he can want adult time. That’s wholly different than feeling sad for days, [b]being fatigued on a regular basis and walking around with a black cloud over them [b]all the time. Ruling out depression is a reasonable place to start in this instance. [/quote]

He’s tired and unhappy because he dislikes having his life revolve around children.  His kids suck the energy out of him.  I feel the same way and I’m NOT depressed.  I am okay with my children sometimes and do love them, but being around them makes me unhappy.  It’s not their presence but the amount of work involved.  Just yesterday I was trying to get dressed to leave the house and my six year old must have screamed mommy at least 6 times.  Being around my children all morning was challenging.  I spent the afternoon with friends (no kids) and was immediately happy and enjoyed the rest of the day.  I do not have depression. I dislike the work and limitations of parenthood.

Here is an analogy.  Imagine you’re in prison.  Your unhappy with the bright lights, terrible food, lack of exercise, no fun etc.  Are you depressed?  Is it only depression?  Is all you need a magic pill and your chemical imbalance causing the depression?  Or maybe you just dislike prison and would be happy immediately if you left!  
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Honestly I do not understand why you people had any children in the first place.  You possess neither the maturity or patience to be a parent.  You should have stayed childless, [b]so that you could focus on  your selfish, immature, narcissistic, annoying selves.[/b]

This thread is full of ridiculous people.  Put on your big-girl and big-boy panties and parent the children  you choose to have.  Boo hoo, my child called for me six times....I'm in prison...boo hoo.[/quote]

I don’t think someone is all of these insults you say just because they want to enjoy their life without the burden of children.  I’m immature and annoying because I want to be able to spend 15 minutes getting dressed without numerous interruptions, someone crying, and someone yelling for me six times?

I wouldn’t have had kids if I had known what it would be like.  No one knows and then it’s a permanent decision.  Everyone says it’s the best thing ever.  Except many of us find out that it’s not.  Then there are the parents like you who insult people just because they dislike something that you enjoy.

Perhaps we are simply more evolved?  I didn’t play with legos or travel to Disney as an adult pre-kids and I don’t want to now.  I don’t think this is necessarily a bad thing.

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