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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not think it’s surprising that intensive parenting is a massive drag on BOTH parents. Women are just socialized to act like it’s fun more. It’s not fun. You can read a whole book about it. It’s called All Joy No Fun.

There are no easy solutions to the intensive parenting trap as it reflects how our society has evolved. I would look into ways to build your kids capacity for independent play.

It helps me to think of my family as a team and to involve my kids with chores. I also think about my relationship with my kids instead of defining that as parenting.

Your husband is verbalizing what others are thinking, including many moms as PP have described.

It’s not failure. It’s completely unrealistic expectations of a post-industrial society. These standards are the weird new thing, not the husband.

The Mommy Myth is a super helpful book. Helped me shift my perspective.

I still have to “curate” for my kids, but I can do that in a way that leaves space for my own sanity. [/quote]

This right here.  It helps me to remember that this isn’t fun and was supposed to be considered fun until maybe 30 years ago.  Parenting is another form of work.  Try your best to throw money at the problem and make your life easier.  [/quote]

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